Take Your Relationship Back to School!

Can't teach an old dog new tricks? You bet you can!

Back to School

Most people I know are sold on the idea of a lifelong learning model. Never stop learning and improving is a way of life for a lot of people. However, when it comes to our relationship with our partner, we often just expect that to somehow just work itself out.


September is past and the kids are back to school. I still feel a bit strange at the end of summer when the weather cools. Part of me feels like something is missing. That feeling is tied to so many years of going to school in the fall: 12 years of public school; two undergraduate degrees (6 years), grad school (3 years) and too many post grad courses later.

Now, I feel a little out of sorts every fall, but I still go back to “school” every year, just not every fall. I typically take a course or two to learn a new skill or brush up on an old one. I love to focus on counselling and therapy skills and always take related courses. I just finished a course in understanding autism and I looking for my next course at the same time I am writing this.

No matter what course I take, I always get something out of it, whether it’s a good solid refresher, a new take on an established skill or an entirely new skill. Over the years, my spouse and I have benefited from courses, couples retreats and seminars. The truth is, I never stop learning how to be a better husband and I think my spouse would also say she is constantly improving and focusing on our relationship too.

I would encourage you to take the time this fall to go back to school, relationship school. Take a course, attend a seminar or go on a retreat. You can also book two or three couple’s sessions to address an issue or fine tune your relationship. Couples counselling can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a more healthy, positive way. Your spouse will love you for it and the improvement in your relationship will be worth the investment.