Life 360 Counselling - specializing in couples counselling…
couples counselling that helps you feel calm, connected, centred and safe
If you are in a difficult season in your marriage or relationship, we would like to be part of your healing and transition to a safe and loving place. No matter if your marriage only needs a tune-up or is filled with hurts or betrayals, we would like to help you foster a ‘safe haven’ where you feel understood, supported, cared for and, above all, cherished.
“He has become my safe haven again!”
couples counselling that understands relationships
“I like this approach better. I understand it really is about our relationship.”
“I was afraid I would always be thinking about the affair, but it’s way behind us now.”
We were created to live in relationships and are naturally drawn together as couples, in groups and in community. Nevertheless, our Western culture views independence as a virtue and dependence as a weakness. We’ve been taught that a truly strong person doesn’t need anybody to survive and thrive. However, extensive research into thriving relationships has clearly demonstrated that being attached to your partner is not only a good thing, it's necessary if we are going to thrive as we should.
It's a proven fact that a secure attachment underpins the strongest relationships. Both partners feel more calm, connected, centred and safe. Ironically, secure attachments help us to be more autonomous and independent individuals. With strong, secure attachments at home, we are better able to face the challenges and trials of this life.
stronger, bolder and more empowered
A good secure connection in our marriage or relationship helps us to be stronger, bolder and more empowered. It gives us the confidence to go out into the world and face whatever challenges lay ahead.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples is the key therapy used in couples counselling here at Life 360 Counselling. EFT draws on attachment theory, which understands that we are all hardwired for strong emotionally connected relationships with others.
Couples have relationship problems when they experience emotional disconnection with their partner at key moments. This then leads to struggles with negative cycles of criticism and anger among other emotions and reactions.
The aim of EFT is to help couples overcome these negative cycles, to connect again and strengthen their emotional bond.
“This was not just self-discovery; you guided us and redirected the course of our relationship.”
“This entirely changed our relationship; fixing it before it became irreparable.”
“This has helped us avoid problems; we’re more willing to talk.”
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
“We tried other couples counselling, but it seemed hopeless. EFT really works and I felt like we had hope right from the start.”
“I feel like I’m falling in love again!”
“We’re better friends than we were four months ago!”
Emotionally Focused Therapy encourages the experience, recognition and understanding of emotions. The EFT model has proven valuable in treating personal conflicts, including marriage and family issues. It is effective because of its focus on healing the root causes of our emotional distress.
EFT is unique in that it helps couples renew their feelings of love and connection. It is effective in helping build trust, communicate clearly and effectively, and resolve conflict.
EFT focuses on helping couples develop the tools necessary to express their heartfelt needs and desires safely. Couples learn to trust their partner, to be available to hear what they’re feeling, and respond in ways that are constructive and loving.
EFT helps couples understand destructive patterns and interactions that erode and undermine their relationship. Couples learn to understand and express how they are feeling, address their anxieties and fears and stop negative cycles of arguing or withdrawing.
EFT at Life 360 Counselling
Emotionally Focused Therapy is very much alive and well at Life 360 Counselling. We use EFT as a pivotal form of therapy for couples.
The results are in and they are amazing!
Couples who truly want to repair, rebuild and renew their relationship respond exceptionally well to EFT, even if there has been an affair or other significant negative event.
Research has shown that EFT is highly effective. In fact, peer-reviewed studies of the EFT model show a 75% rate of total change and 90% rate of significant change. Couples repair and restore their marriages.
“I can finally trust again. I never thought I would ever be able to say that.”
“You created a safe place for us to really talk about what’s really going on in our relationship”